Spirituality, Skin and Matters of the Heart
Hello, dear readers! This month’s Q & A are:
I’ve been raised to be Christian, but it was nothing hardcore. Just we went to church every Saturday and read some Bible and that’s about it. I’ve never really liked it and now I’ve decided to just not have any religion and maybe if I could find something that interests me. But how do you start to look for the right religion? How do you know if it’s right? What is it exactly that makes people so into their spirituality? Why is it so important to some of them?
Diana
Spirituality is something that comes from a hidden voice inside the soul. Forcing “religion” on anyone is never a good idea and I often shudder with families who pounce upon their kids who want to explore the diversity of beliefs that this world has to offer. While I may be a witch, I still find that Mother Teresa was the most decent woman of our time and find that emulating her message of love towards others, regardless of their race, religion, nationality, gender, or sexual identity is the most profound gift we can give to the world.
Dear Witch Hazel,
Unfortunately, I am a sufferer of moderate to severe eczema which started about half a year ago due to a severe panic attack.
I often have problems with stress and panic attacks, which are actually the cause of my eczema. I was wondering if any particular food or herbal
remedy could help my eczema or help me relax. Any help would be really appreciated.
Thanks heaps,
Paige.
Paige, since you nailed the problem down to stress, it wouldn’t hurt for you to explore how to meditate to quiet the mind. With practice, you will find that you can tap into that quiet place you created for those stressful times that crop up. You may also find taking a bath in oatmeal is luxurious for your skin as well as your nerves.
In the mean time, it wouldn’t hurt to get to a good dermatologist to combat some of the patchy troublesome areas as well.
I have just broken up with a man that I really loved. I am devastated that we are no longer together. He has since moved on and I am still pining the loss of our relationship. How do I bind this man to me and to no one else? I love him dearly! I feel he still loves me but his pride is in the way. Plus, how do I get rid of his rude girlfriend?
Audry
Audry, you should never bind someone to your will because that only brings about bad karma. Trust in the Universe that if this relationship was meant to be, it will be. What you should be focusing on during this transition is finding out what made the relationship break up in the first place. Take this time as an opportunity to reconnect with your friends for support and work towards becoming a better you. This way, when Mr. Right really does come along, you will be ready!
Dear Witch Hazel,
I have a very close friend who got married about six years ago. Her husband’s mother moved in with them right after they were married, and it has been really crummy for my friend ever since. Her husband has been the victim of emotional abuse from his mother since he was a child, but my friend wasn’t aware of any of this when she first got married. As you can imagine, things haven’t been going so well in that house over the past few years. Now, she is very depressed and has spoken to me of suicide, and she’s isn’t the drama queen type at all, so I’ve taken this very seriously. I have told her that she needs to see someone to get emotional help, but I live across the country from her now, so it’s
difficult for me to physically help her. I’ve just started practicing Wicca, so I’m not sure if I could help her, but I’d like to try anyway. I thought if there was maybe a protective spell, or some kind of spell to help give her strength, I could try that? If you have any ideas, I would love to hear them. Thank you very much for your time.
Sincerely, Samantha
You have a couple of issues going on at one time.
First, your friend didn’t bother to do her homework of her mate before she got married and like 55% of today’s divorcing couples, she now finds herself miserable.
As much as she is very close to you, the best recourse is to butt out of it. Tell her that if she needs help, to get it. If she speaks of suicide, you may need to call the local authorities since you love her too much to let her hurt herself. If her marriage is a tragedy, she needs to work it out or get out.
The reason I suggest staying out of it is because generally people will ultimately utilize your time and kindness, complain at all hours and never really do anything about the problem. What you thought was helping ended up further enabling a whiny pattern that simply needs to stop and grow up. Women are no longer the property of men and she needs to grow a set of brass balls so to speak and let him know that he needs to shape up or she is going to ship out.
In the meantime, while your friend is doing all this emotional work, her husband is not, and now your friend is overfunctioning on that level for two people. Tell your friend to find a counselor to speak with in order to at least get a handle on this situation before it totally consumes her and you.
Thank you for reading. Feel free to write in at witchhazel@morbidoutlook.com . Due to the large volume of mail I receive, I can not give personal e-mail responses nor answer every question right away, but I will try my best. Take care. |
